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Christmas Blues, psychology, and an experience of feeling Alone
Anchoring and Physio-psychological Coping
Before i start I am an only child that was essentially abandoned at ten, so please forgive me if I don't get this exactly right the first time. My best friend was baseball and a chessboard until ten, and if I could make my back story any colder, I come from a family of bankers of navy stock.
What my grandmother used to tell me: 10 good things to be grateful for in the morning.
What my father used to tell me: The story of Robert DeBruce.
What I tell myself: Sisyphus isn't my name.
(if you'd like the unabridged version please DM me on Instagram)
All three essentially are the same message: 'Don't give up'
Maintenance Behavior
Neurosis of Covid, Covid's shadow, lockdown paralysis
Weight Watching, Merry Christmas!!, and Short termism, dopamine and the 'what's missing' mindset,
Tennis, and winning:
Personal story of 2004 onwards, and the personal struggle of self-starvation (both food and a girl named '#Joy' and it's aftermath.)
From 2004, I was non-smoking, non-drinking, ate mozzarella for protein, played tennis with world top 40, and had the rating of being able if called to play ass a 'wild card' to #Wimbledon 7.2 or so. By 2005 I had survived constant harassment, been going to the school where the London bombing had been and was basically a mess.
Having moved so much, I hardly had a #career to offer (I was a student visa in the States) and was near $3000 in debt, though to a friendly bank. I felt like a zero. By the end of 2006 I was in the black going to UCCI (University College of the Cayman Islands) while coaching tennis and by 2007 had my GPA back to par.
Before leaving #Florida, and for school, #Boston, I knew my life wasn't going to be a straight road from 2004, a familiar feeling for me from when I was sent to boarding school at ten, but unfamiliar in terms of fear for self. As I said I was happy while at University, so 'fear of loss', the danger of the unknown, and possibility of death became free exchange even while reading or listening to music. The circumstances were changing from what I 'wanted' to do, to what I 'had' to do.
In management circles you'd be amazed at how effective that is.
I went to the whole 9, Par 3, outside my home in Florida and hit a 'hole in one', to tell myself I'll make it back, it only took one shot.
The use of #breadcrumbs, as a way of finding one's way back to something is as old as rope, and in psychology it's similarly useful, memorizing favorite expressions or hand gestures, an associated color to an opinion, is great for self-esteem, as well as it's use in rote learning, and computer learning.
I played the best game available; I hope.
I also had the chance to realize that societal barriers and the effect of frustration on Positive Mental Attitude (#PMA) abided by the 2% rule of psychology only in reverse. The theory being if you improve one aspect of your mind in one way an aspect of your character's strength will follow the curvature of that exponential.
If your PMA is off by 2% the similar exponent is similarly deficit.
Always know your way home, whether that's a feeling, a place, or a person.
And,
Unfortunately for me after 6 years of nothing but trauma, I wasn't home yet =2%.
Architecture as a
visual Metaphor.
PTSD History of Art.
Now what I had wasn't the typical case of 'shell shock' which was the formative understanding of PTSD. It was originally a Napoleonic concept of the French Republic, where studies were open to interpretation rather than the reason they fought a war in the first place, which was being surrounded by the more reserved monarchy of Europe. French soldiers would return as if they had seen a ghost, or would convulse, shake, sleeping disorders, eating disorders, then manic disorders. In an age before pharmaceuticals there was no quick fix and there were doctors trying to prevent what modern man calls 'going postal'.
Have you ever seen the old movies where a doctor would try and use his pocket watch dangle, then swing? That's where we get #EMT that red dot that you follow mispackaged as hypnosis, because we think that's Manchurian candidate but it's actually making our eyes less of our thoughts and makes us clairvoyant and deeper rested. The doctor and yourself are both looking for the cause of the symptoms.
In post Ancien France given their unique position, and up to that point lack of #pharmaceutical knowledge, such as micro dosing MDMA, and LSD, the soldiers would be, after passing certain hurdles, would be told to have #naked days. If you think we're uptight now, imagine then. But it worked, and Vietnam veterans who could live with their own reflection came to understand and .. forgive themselves, letting them understand themselves understand in the caring light of who they were rather than the harness of discipline.
Know your way, Home.
You can be your own #Home.
Self-Harm's shallow wound and a bit of reverse psychology.
The idea of #depression makes historical sense, with austere churches wuthering priests and monopolies on money, knowledge, and even the soul, but it dates even further back than that. we have become a world of the twelve-hour day with eight-hour sleeps, with even sleep-ins on Sundays with plenty to eat, after neolithic hunter gatherer communities we became farmers as 'barter' became a term for being able to perform more than one function while sharing in the skills of others and offering our skills on the same terms.
These led to stable #communities to hamlets, villages, towns then cities. The original farmers, for fear of their crop being stolen or vandalized, would sleep in rotation to moon light typically in more or less four-hour installments, as those were the hours of most relative light when most work, and protection could be offered.
To say it now, I'm not a huge fan of inherited genetic behavior, but to some epigeneticists, and geneticists it's the holy grail of the idea of a cure, or normative behavior, including #socialization and .. being a #goodcitizen.
'He doesn't see it in the same light...'
.. is an expression used by some exclusionist bodies to describe one as a non 'yes, man', but it's rooted in what region or roots one may have, it even touches on class, the more somber were working long hours in the dark, the other the day.
.. now we know it's vitamin E (sunlight), serotonin, and chosen diet, unless there's repeated trauma, singular trauma, or inertia, the list is limitless, but the three previous factors are the most important and hopefully the sleeping #subconscious covers the little things.
I was trained by a interrogator of sorts, specifically #fraud, given the industries quality of crook you had to be very practiced and patient, it was London in the 80's. But some of these observable behaviors are also applied to life sciences in the form of recognizing depression, or in the lucky cases simply stress.
covering one's mouth
eye movements
frequency of toilet visits
the amount of liquid being consumed, equal, ahead, or behind
All common sense, and our will to be happy, is often a betrayal of what's making us long for more. In under the circumstance why we feel we can never win, is because we don't know what we want: to be #Happy ,,
I'm not a professional psychologist, but I'll give writing a blog sooner or later in more detail on the topic sooner rather than later, and the sooner you start recognizing the traits, the happier you could quite possibly be.
Just don't get obsessed with it otherwise you'll go nuts!!
what self-examination means outside of the classroom, 'observational medicine', is the modern medical terminology, no self harm.
No stressing this Christmas otherwise you'll give the game away!
It's been a tough year, I hope this blog helps.
#christmas2022 #psychologytoday #personality #observablemedicine #selfharm #arthistory #anchoring #coping #biography #personaltriumphs #psychology #
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